I’m so excited, it’s another LIFE week with Laraddiji, my Living in Fast Express section where I talk about what’s going on in life in general or something that has ticked me into putting this together. From the moment we wake up, till its time to go bed, there’s so much going on in our minds, not in any particular order, family, bills, spouse, children, job, parents, relatives, friends, co-workers, bosses, trusting God more, what to eat, driving, where to go, health, appointments and so on and so forth that it’ll be very irresponsible of us to start going into other peoples minds and heads to try to figure out what they’re thinking about us. Let’s take for instance, you went to work and a coworker is looking at you before he or she made a turn for their office and then you started thinking, he or she doesn’t like you, he or she looked at me this way or that way so therefore they must not like the way I talk or maybe the way I walk or maybe they don’t even like my face or even maybe the way I do my job. I’ve thought about this before believe me and those thoughts are in our minds everyday, subconsciously messing our minds up.
As I was preparing this topic I was watching a movie of a lady that was raped while she was on her school campus and she had reported the incident to the authorities and a case was drawn out however, she lost the case because the main guy, the culprit had parents who had loads of money. Anywhere she went on her school campus, she felt that everyone was talking about her, anytime she saw people laughing, she would think they were laughing about her, at the end of the day, she killed herself. This was a movie however, we can all learn from this. My thing is, we might have had a situation that we might not be able to tell anybody or everybody about and we might feel if anybody knows, we wouldn’t be able to handle the situation, however if anybody really should know, keep your head held high, and have a “who cares?” attitude and keep your head above the water, don’t let the world drown you out. Imagine if she had done the opposite and kept her head held high, she might have found her purpose, or even found the strength to see to it that her rapists went to jail which they eventually did in the movie.
There are two groups of people, the people who will tell you, “there’s nothing new under the sun” meaning, somewhere somehow, whatever situation you’re going through, someone else has gone through it before and have survived, so you should be brave in that circumstance you’re going through and then you have this other group, “What will people say?” Chai, this group scares me, they give me goosebumps. If I have bad teeth, “people” will talk, she need to get it fixed, they’ll say, if I have shine shine teeth, the ‘people will talk, they’ll say, hmmm, Colgate spokesman, is it only her teeth. Guess what, I have been the ‘people’ before too, I won’t lie, you have definitely been the ‘people’ before as well. The “people” have been here before us and they will surely be here after us, they will talk, that’s what people do, so because people talk, I will not do what I am destined to do? So because people will talk, I will not live my life? I will not raise my flag high and wave it for the world to see? Its so unfortunate the state our nation is right now, both at home and abroad, but despite all we see and hear about, do not let those distract us from the important missions of our lives.
When you are down today, their mouth has to move and it’s the same mouth that will move when you are rising up, so my dear, enjoy your down-time because the only way to go from there will be uptown, you feel me?
Don’t always think of yourself as a victim, think of yourself as a victor.
Change your mind, yes, use your mind against itself, look in the mirror and tell yourself to move. That’s what separates people that make it from those that don’t.
Don’t think of yourself as being a failure, think of yourself being a success
The thought will definitely come, that you’re not enough, that you’re not doing enough, but you have the power to change it to what you want, don’t be feeling sorry for yourself, the more you’re doing that, the more you’re digging a pot hole for your destined vehicle to fall into.
Don’t make assumptions about others, their feelings, their thoughts, their reactions, its not yours, its theirs
Now unless someone tells you face to face, you’re disgusting, why would you ever think so, unless someone says you talk too much, why would you ever think you talk too much? God made you the way you are, don’t downplay yourself, don’t stress yourself into becoming another person you’re not meant to be because the easiest person you can be is yourself, the moment you give more power to what others say about you, it becomes stressful on you.
Don’t let your past experiences imprison you and prevent you from living your life
You’ll only be wasting time, before you know it, you’ll be 60yrs old and 75 will be knocking on the door and you did nothing with your time. Get up and do it now, even if you fail, do it again, you will only learn, and not die of failure or have you ever heard of someone who died from failing?
Don’t always think of the negative side of situations, think of the positive sides.
There are people that do this on daily basis and it slowly eats them up and what they could be doing positively in their lives and in the lives of others. It takes time to understand the fact that we are on this earth not for our sole enjoyment but for the benefit of others, if we just existing for ourselves, what a boring life that will be.
Don’t think you can make anyone think good of you, do good yourself and move on with your life.
I feel like some people do good things for the benefit of others for what they will gain from them, be it for the thanks or for some other gratifying reasons that only they will understand but when we do something good for our fellow, brothers and sisters, do it with a clean heart, with a clear mind, these deeds are rewarded beyond our imaginations by our maker, and the reward shouldn’t even be the motivation for you doing something good or something nice for someone, if you’re capable, don’t think twice.
I hope this speaks to somebody today, and I hope that if you know someone going through something bigger than themselves, that you’ll be part of the group that will give a lending hand and show them the way, not the ones that will say, “what will people say?” I won’t preach, but I hope you know what I mean.
A quote says, “put out the fire on you before you put out the fire on others and another says, “Don’t burn yourself to keep others warm.” however with all that I have said, I will end this section with my own thoughts, “Don’t burn yourself, and your ideas, and your dreams, your potentials, your financials, your opportunities, your imagination and absolutely don’t burn your bridges thinking for other people.” Be confident in yourself, and I say this to myself as well, I struggled with self esteem issues when I was a bit younger and I’m still working on my voice, and I’m so surprised at what I know but sometimes it doesn’t show because in certain situations, I’m just thinking too much about life, so at times, I remind myself to stop thinking too much and just live life.
That’s all for now you guys, I’m a lover of peace and I love talking about situations we might find ourselves in that need peaceful endings. Let’s stop giving ourselves high blood pressure for no reason as we live our lives. God willing, we are on this earth for an average of 75-80yrs. Let’s not waste any of our precious time on matters that don’t help us positively in some way. You have a decision to make about that situation you are still battling alone, if not now, maybe later, the confidence ball is in your court, you can either let it rule your life or you can take charge and rule it out of your life. Thank you very much for staying with me, you can like this post by giving it a thumbs up so that I can make more LIFE posts and also subscribe subscribe to get notified of new posts, why wait, its free, don’t forget to love your neighbors as yourself and at the end of the day, let us remember that for us to RestInPeace, we all need to be LivingInPeace, Stay blessed.